Growth isn’t easy, success isn’t easy, you’ve gotta be prepared to fail in order to move forward.
If you never change anything about your current situation then you can guarantee nothing will change. So unless your 100% happy and have a solid back up plan in case of any unforeseen changes, then you’d better be prepared to take some action for change.
Why do people struggle to make changes?
Motivation is probably a big reason and fear of failure…
How on earth do you get motivated every day to change things when you can just about manage with what’s happening in your life right now?
You may be surrounded by others that are leading the life you want to live and getting the results you dream of getting, yet for some reason you cannot fathom out their magic formula to success???
How do they do it!!??!!
The answer isn’t a big secret as some people may lead you to believe…
There isn’t a one solution answer, no big secret, no hidden formula, no short cut. Just a repeated pattern of action and failure.
They simply just do it.
Taking small repeated steps forward that lead you towards where you ultimately what to be.
Acceptance before change.
Hold on a tic tho, some of you don’t actually know what you want? Some of you haven’t even accepted what you already have either.. ??
Step one before you take action to change anything is acceptance, taking full responsibility for things as they are now and being grateful for the good parts. There are always good parts in any given situation!
A great way to do this is by starting a gratitude journal, shift your mindset even a tiny bit on a daily basis and it will have a huge impact over time and will automatically become a positive habit. However, habits require repeated action. Start your day by writing a list of things your grateful for in your life now just as it is. You may find only 3 things to begin with, as time progresses and your mindset improves build the list up to 10 things daily that your grateful for. There’s always something, if your reading this now, you are alive and kicking, not being dead is a great reason to be grateful!
Another way to get motivated is to make time to reflect on what it is you actually want to change? This is an exercise I’ve done many times along my entrepreneurial journey. A written list you can make or if you are visual why not put together a vision board, they are loads of great apps online that you can download pictures from, (I use pic collage) maybe one for your health, one for your wealth and one for your family and house. Or you may like to cut out pictures from magazines, or simply prefer to write things down, what you want to change and the reasons why. Focus on different key areas in your life for a balanced approach to change. Remember, Life is more than just material wealth…
Another step towards change is awareness
I’m a big fan of meditation and the law of attraction, by practicing both daily and focusing more on the present moment rather than getting caught up in the past or overthinking my future, I’m far more aware of the choices I make daily. I’m also a calmer person overall and hopefully better to be around lol, an emotional rollercoaster can be draining company at times!
We all have choices, ones that help us move towards positive change and ones that set us back a few steps. If you can become more present by spending a few minutes daily focusing on your breath and being aware of your thoughts (not trying to control them at this stage) you become more aware of the present situation and run your life less on autopilot mode.
If you have no clue about meditation and are interested, I can highly recommend either looking into a six week course or downloading an app similar to Calm or headspace. It takes daily practice to make a difference so stick with it! Your not aiming to clear your mind, it’s more a bit of organisation and awareness.
How many times have you eaten something and afterwards hardly remember eating it? Or driven from A to B and thought crikey I don’t recall half of that journey??!!! This is autopilot. A learned pattern of behaviour that we repeat without thinking, great for some tasks but not so great for others! If we can slow down a bit and stand back from the day to day chaos of life, surprisingly enough you will find you have more time, then over time you may be able to recognise your thoughts and not get caught up in them, maybe even positively switch them up, spending more time in the present moment and making more informed positive choices.
If your thinking ‘there’s no way I can do that’ my mind is constantly in overdrive and my life is too busy… I know exactly how you feel. I was in the same shoes. Life just happened to me and I went along for the ride, a literal rollercoaster of work and stress, massive highs yes, I was a fun party girl, also massive lows, a bit of an emotional mess lol. The biggest low being 3 weeks after the birth of my son Bayley, almost 11 years ago now, where I crashed big time with severe post natal psychosis and ended up in a psychiatric ward.
This of course was an extreme case, a big wake up call that my life needed to change and that change had to come from me.
Thankfully, I recovered and through choice after 3 weeks, came off of medication. I found that if I trusted my instincts in being more aware of my thought patterns by practicing a form of meditation through deep breathing, I could slow down the crazy scary thoughts, the extreme anxiety and gradually focus on the more positive outcome.
I would face the fear, the scary thoughts and ask what’s the worse that could happen? How would I respond to this? What was the likelihood of it happening? Then after I had breathed my way through this scenario, I then gave all my attention to the good parts the best possible outcome. Not always easy I grant you, however, it was possible.
It took me just over a year to get signed off the mental health register. God knows how as I now realise this was pretty unusual, the only thing I can say is that I had a strong reason not to take medication after losing my twin sister to a mix of drugs & alcohol (prescribed and otherwise) and I had a strong reason why I had to recover for my son, something I had longed for with all my heart.
Medication has its place and is essential, I’m not suggesting anyone come off medication without seeking advice from a professional, however, I’m extremely passionate that you have to work on the grass roots of the problem alongside this, if you want to make a full recovery and improve your future self.
suggestions for improvement
1 Self talk
How do you speak to yourself daily? Become aware of this and if you can catch yourself speaking negatively, then consciously change it to a positive version! How you talk to yourself is crucial for making positive changes in life.
2 Stop comparing yourself to others
This is your journey nobody else’s but yours. If we constantly compare ourselves we either beat ourselves up if our results are not up to expectations or speak from the ego if we are smashing the so called competition. The only person ultimate to get better than is YOU.
3 Move beyond limiting beliefs
Anything is possible!! There are no limitations it all comes down to belief. Work on your mindset daily by listening to motivational audios. Aim to make yourself feel a bit better, even a tiny bit will gave an impact to your energy and vibration. Identify your limiting beliefs and then work on changing them. When I started out I had mixed views on money and wether I was worthy to be successful. I found reading books on this particular subject, then blogging or doing video helped me breakthrough limiting belief that stemmed as far back as my childhood.
4 Add value to others
Serve from the heart, simply switching from how can I help or empower or add value to others, rather than what’s in it for me, will in turn improve your own results. Trust this process. It’s everything and once you get this is simple to do.
5 Do the right thing!
Integrity is everything, I’m a strong believer in the law of attraction, some may believe in karma. Whatever you give out you will receive, always trust your instinct, if it feels right go for it, if not ask yourself why? You may have a temporary gain from your action, however, in the long run unethical behaviour will catch up with you!
6 Change daily habits
Small disciplines daily soon add up moving you towards success. A gratitude journal, daily meditation or listening to an inspirational audio will all move you towards positive change if and this is a biggie you are consistent!
7 Celebrate and share small victories!
However small it’s important to share and celebrate small successes! It not only encourages yourself, it encourages others, people love to follow a success story. Never think your tiny bit of success will not have a positive impact, it definitely will.
8 take responsibility for your life
In order to move forward and make positive changes it’s crucial to take full responsibility and let go of blame. Forgive anything from the past, it will only have a negative effect on your own personal future. We all make mistakes, you just need to let go and believe in yourself to get started.
In summary Motivation isn’t something that some people have and some do not. It’s something that takes time and practice to form new daily habits, however small to begin, if consistent they will add up over time and start to show positive results in your life.
So Just do it.
I hope you enjoyed my words today. What inspired me to write this blog? Well to be honest, I also needed a reminder to up my motivation game in a few areas, to ‘just do it!’ however, this also reminded me that it’s ok, it’s my journey not anyone else’s and I’ve come a very long way over the last 5/6 years or so!
Yes I may of neglected my blog a tad and not kept in regular contact with my list like I used to. However, I’m still moving forward and have ingrained through consistent action using the techniques above, many positive habits that have impacted my life in all areas.
Daily motivation or spiritual audios and meditation is top of my list, something I value dearly. Helping others that I’ve introduced into my online businesses, offering regular value to others via social media. Self talk, something I’m now automatically aware of and acting from integrity both valuable lessons I practice daily.
Last year saw some huge changes in my business and financial situation that are now thankfully heading towards the outcomewe desire. Lessons have been learnt, forgiveness practiced, & responsibility owned fully for the unexpected outcome. Ive undergone a whole lot of spiritual healing and focused on getting back on track through practicing taking daily action towards change.
Life will always challenge us, in order to grow and live our lives on purpose change is essential even when a tad painful.
If you are interested in how I’ve accomplished this, connect with me on Facebook I’d be happy to point you in the right direction to make positive changes to your life too.
Love x light x inspiration
Claire (Positiveminds Coach)